Paul Pasternak


About Me

My Name is Paul D. Pasternak and I am a Licenced Mental Health Counselor (LMHC) in New York State. I have over twenty-five years of experience serving a wide variety of individuals in varied settings. This has given me deep reservoir of experience to draw upon when working with clients. My career has been spent assisting people cope with and overcome anxiety, depression, parenting challenges, relationship problems, addiction, and adjusting to life changes. I find it very rewarding to facilitate client change in difficult times; be it a young person adjusting to adulthood, a couple navigating the ups and downs of a relationship, or an older person adjusting to the challenges that come with age.

Much of my career has been spent with family and youth experiencing challenges. These services have been provided both in the families home and an office setting.
Transitioning from childhood to adulthood is difficult even in the best of times. Families change as the children grow or caregivers change. A particular focus has been on helping boys and young men. Strong, positive role models of maleness are lacking in many of their lives. This is integral in helping boys and young men develop into caring, compassionate, and responsible adults. My preferred tools to achieve this are Motivational Interviewing and Cognitive-Behavioral Treatment. A unique and specific Care Plan is created with each client that targets those specific areas that may require change. Progress is noted and adjustments made along the way to help the client achieve their goals. All this will be done in an environment that is nurturing, empathetic, cognizant of past trauma, and focused on success.

It takes inner strength and dedication to start the journey of change. Most of all it requires hope. Hope, and some work, can grow into the change needed to make a life you desire.

I look forward to taking this journey of hope and change with you.


  • Family conflicts
  • Anger management
  • Self esteem
  • Coping with life changes
  • Coaching
Also experienced in:
Stress, Anxiety , Addictions , Relationship issues , Trauma and abuse , Grief , Intimacy-related issues , Parenting issues , Career difficulties , Depression , Aging and Geriatric Issues , Caregiver Issues and Stress , Control Issues , Read more...

Clinical approaches:
Client-Centered Therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Motivational Interviewing

Years of Experience: 25

Services Offered

  • Messaging

  • Live Chat

  • Phone

  • Video


LMHC #003878-1 (Expires: 2024-03-31)


Written by B.A. on May 27, 2021 after counseling with Paul for 3 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, self esteem, and career difficulties

Paul is awesome. Very thoughtful, insightful, and is able to articulate and pinpoint exactly what I am feeling. He's also very easy to talk to. I just started working with him but have already felt relief and am building confidence that things will get better for the long run. I'd highly recommend Paul.

Written by Y.O. on Dec 23, 2020 after counseling with Paul for 5 months

Paul was one of the best counselors I have ever worked with. He was very attentive to my needs and helped me navigate the complex and confusing feelings I had. He helped me get to the root cause of my maladaptive feelings, helping me see that there were far more than just the feelings of anger and shame. He was also very sensitive and treated me with great deal of respect. He never once imposed his ways on to me and helped me make the choices on my own. He also held me accountable when needed and didn't let me slide into maladaptive behaviors and patterns. I highly recommend him to anyone that needs mental health counseling!

Written by K.L. on Dec 10, 2020 after counseling with Paul for 5 months

Paul has been a blessing. My daughter trusts him completely and for a parent it is a huge comfort. I recommend Paul very highly.

Written by M.I. on Dec 09, 2020 after counseling with Paul for 4 months on issues concerning stress, anxiety, addictions, intimacy-related issues, and eating disorders

Paul is knowledgeable and kind. He’s been a real help to me.

Written by G.I. on Oct 29, 2020 after counseling with Paul for 3 months

He is very understanding and relates to key topi and discussions.

Written by A.H. on Oct 25, 2020 after counseling with Paul for 3 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, addictions, family conflicts, trauma and abuse, sleeping disorders, self esteem, career difficulties, and adhd

He is the most thoughtful and qualified individual to really dissect my bugs, we're right now in the process of it and it feels amazing! always a pleasure with Paul.

Written by M.E. on Jul 19, 2020 after counseling with Paul for 3 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, family conflicts, trauma and abuse, grief, sleeping disorders, self esteem, and career difficulties

I have endured many types of severe traumatic experiences throughout my life. I am middle aged and have current issues in my life in addition to coping with my past trauma. Mr.Pasternak demonstrates a high level of consideration for helping me reach my mental health goals. With a matter of a few weeks, this counselor has helped me feel self empowered through practical exercises to make my life more enriching. He is very mellow, non judgmental and easy to communicate with.